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Jacob Bacaner is an actor, male model and motivational YouTube star. I met Jacob a few years back when I interviewed him for this video. I was inspired by his hustle, and how he refused to settle for anything less than EVERYTHING he wanted. Since then, this smile-motivated funny man has taken the modeling world by storm. Using the power of visualization, Jacob recently landed a BMW modeling campaign, appeared in a Samsung commercial and was a VIP model on the show “Power” on Starz (Season 3, episode 1).
In today’s podcast, Jacob shares his secrets for how he defeats the negative voices inside his head. He opens up about his Schwarzenegger-inspired fitness transformation, and gives some tips for visualizing your 5 year goals. When asked how he stays so positive even in the face of fear, he says “you gotta get silly with it”. And he wasn’t kidding around! Listen in as I attempt to tame this hilarious bundle of energy.
Jacob’s Youtube Channel: bit.ly/1FHjEqL
Jacob’s Instagram: instagram.com/JacobBacaner
Find out more about me at www.LauraMeoli.com
Links for stuff we talk about:
Jacob’s college Video: bit.ly/1OlcGvB
Embrace the chaos: bit.ly/1YP6GSm
Variety Seeker Tribe: honelife.com
Listen to more episodes of the LoudaVision Podcast HERE
Welcome to LoudaVision, the podcast for visionaries, artists and creative people. I'm Laura Meoli, a filmmaker, artist, and now, a podcast host. My guest today is Jacob Bacaner, actor, male model and motivational YouTube star. You can follow Jacob on Instagram and YouTube for fitness, motivation and modeling. Jacob, thank you for coming today.
Thanks for having me, Laura.
Jacob, tell me about your YouTube channel. You have a new series called Building Bacaner. Tell me what's new with you.
I sure do. That new series is called Building Bacaner. We were actually discussing the UFC fighter Conor McGregor. For those of you who don't know UFC fighting, fastest sport growing in the world. The federate championship belt was taken and predicted by the winner himself a year before it happened. He literally predicted that he would take the whole division out and he did it. The guy's name is Conor McGregor. My number one video to watch for people to be inspired by this fighter from Ireland is called Embrace the Chaos.
What does UFC have to do with positive speech and all this stuff that you have in your YouTube channel?
My YouTube channel is all about positive thinking. Our hashtag is #SmileMotivated. My goal with that channel is, I've already achieved it, make my mom proud. I'll do vlogging, daily vlogs, weekly vlogs on everything from what kind of protein powder I'm taking, what you should eat if you're a skinny kid that wants to finally gain some muscle, because I've done it. You can physically change. Always identify with being the skinny kid. You could be the big jock with the big chest. That's what I'm going to do. Besides building muscle in the chest area, I also love doing comedy and modeling stuff and basically just to prove all of you naysayers wrong. I've been a model and an actor for five years now, a YouTuber also for five years. No matter what you do, you're going to get so many more no’s than yes’s. As Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson, "Do you smell what The Rock is cooking?" He's a turned international movie star. He goes, "When you are knocking on opportunity's door, do not knock. Kick that bitch in, smile and introduce yourself." That's what I'm trying to promote on the YouTube channel and on my Instagram. My Instagram, I would say, is more daily posting than my YouTube. You can really follow my life in fitness training, modeling and Ace Ventura humor through my YouTube.
I met Jacob about three years ago. When I first met you, you were really skinny. I'm really proud of your fitness goals, even though your pictures are quite shocking. What was really interesting about you when I met you was that you didn't let anyone define who you are and you didn't let anyone put you in a box. At the time, I was interviewing you for my current job, my day job and I was asking you, "What is your dream?" You were in college and you were about to graduate and you wanted to be an entrepreneur, but you also wanted to be an actor, a model, all these different things. I thought that was so cool that you would not settle for just being in a box of being one thing, even though entrepreneur is very broad. I thought that was really brave of you.
Thank you. That's the kindest thing anyone has ever said to me. You give me chills. My whole state of physiology has changed. I really feel I got this from my mom; she's such a happy person. Compliments are your currency. It's free currency. No matter how broke you are, you could always give someone a compliment, whether it's a homeless person that just needs someone to act like a brother for a minute of his day or if it's someone who looks really sad on the train, you never know. Their girlfriend or boyfriend may have dumped them that day. We've all been in that heartbreak and we know what that feels like. We're all a big family, brothers and sisters. When you walk by strangers, that's you in a year or two if you judge them. Sometimes, not always, it's not to scare you, but I always find that whenever I judge someone accidentally, if it just pops into my head, boom. All of a sudden, a year later, I'm sitting in the same situation and I realize it. Thank you for that compliment.
Because you have so much variety in your life, is that what helps keep you positive and keep you creative?
You’ve got to trust yourself and trust your own intelligence. Only you know what you should take in baby steps every day towards a larger, grander vision of yourself where you have a big mansion, a Maserati and a big foyer. Trust yourself. Only you know what you want to do. I have this leverage over not caring and doing whatever I want to do because my family is spread out if you think about it; a family in Memphis, sisters in Memphis, New Jersey, Florida. I don't come from the family where it's like all family pictures and we all go home for every holiday. There is no home. My mom lives in an apartment in Inglewood, Florida. I'm going there. I'm moving to Miami, South Beach.
Is that part of your plan?
I was telling you this actually, the three big fashion markets for modeling and commercial acting is New York, number one, LA, number two and number three is Miami. If you're going to be a Vincent Chase, my cousin called me, it's such a compliment to call me and see me as a Vincent Chase this summer when I lived with him. You’ve got to see yourself as a Vincent Chase, as this young George Clooney. You’ve got to have this George Clooney. You're a young Brad Pitt. If you can't take rejections in this business, survival of the fittest, you won't last. Keep on taking the baby steps every day to what you know you should do. As my millionaire mentor says in Memphis when I told him I was going to be an actor after I was doing Morgan Stanley, UBS, investment bank, all these stuff, wealth management. The first thing I said, "I'm going to be an actor. That's what I want to do." He goes, "You’ve got to do what you love." That's it, with a big smile. There is nothing else to say. I love that he only speaks enough words as necessary so that it's very easy for his protégés and his mentees to remember what he says.
Kevin Adams, he's this powerhouse role model and a big business hero of mine and a big athlete hero of mine. He's cycling, he's a champion. He really taught me my athlete mindset, living with that family in Memphis for a year and a half. When my parents were going through financial upheaval during the 2008 crisis in the real estate, I lived with that family. He was just living near that exercise room, there was big athlete mentality. Staying in the gym definitely helps me with modeling and acting. He’s like, “No matter how many no’s you get, you know that you are improving on your bicep, you are improving on your back and your lower back and your chest.” I've even started working out my legs. Anyone that works out their legs knows that no one's totally stoked going to the gym for their leg day. You’ve got to get in in there once a week. “Now, you’ve got to be no stone unturned.”
I find your positivity very inspiring, especially when you speak about fitness and stuff and reaching your goals. I've been going through a weird year, which is why we kept trying to schedule this podcast and it kept getting pushed back. I hurt my back, I hurt my leg, major injuries. What happened to me was just some mental funk in a way because I felt like, "How am I going to achieve all the things that I want if my body can't keep up with my brain?" I like that you do more than one thing because it tells me there are alternate things that I could do, there are more things I can add to my repertoire and I don't have to be stuck with the one thing that I'm good at, which I felt is video. Now, I'm branching out to podcasting, super fun.
You are a natural. I've been on major TV shows. I haven't, but in my subconscious, I have visualized that absolutely. You have great presence and you're always such an inspiration to me. Check out her videos and her different things. Be sure to follow this podcast because no doubt, it's inside of you, not on top of you. For real, it's inside of you. The rapper Kia Shine said, "It's inside of you, Jacob, not on top of you. I'm going to see on the cover of Forbes one day." I see that with you. No matter if it's Forbes for you or if you're a lawyer, if you're a doctor or a merchant, a sailor, whatever, it doesn't matter. You kick on that door. Getting a big injury like you mentioned, I hurt my toe. I feel what you went through, the mental funk after an injury. That was a year ago for me with a hurt toe. You obviously feel you're in a slow channel of life. No one remembers you. They're going with their day right passed you. You're just like, "Crap, I'm not invincible."
It's hard. I read this book, it was called The Gifts of Imperfection. It was a great book. It talks about how we're not perfect, which is okay because we try to build ourself up to other people as being so great at everything and so perfect because we have to be that way. It's a shield. Then to accept that you're not perfect and to know that those things are okay and those things are what are unique about you and to just use even those things that are difficulties for you and use that as your strength.
Eric Thomas, another hero of mine, they call him ET, the hip-hop preacher. He has really cool Drake, DJ Mustard style beats with inspirational messages. What he said, to piggyback to what you were saying, "Stop running.” He’s got the basketball coach way of talking to you where he's challenging you in a rough way. “Stop telling yourself you can't do it. You're the only enemy. You're against yourself. You're just like, "I'm going to put in five hours to study for a test. You never studied. Your brain is like, ‘When's the last time we pulled in an all nighter?’ You're like, ‘All ready to go in.’ Your body is just like, ‘We never do that.’" You’ve got to practice just going with it. That's how get over the fear of just being on stage when no one laughs at your joke. You never stop the Maserati engine.
When you have that fear though, it can become hard to see the future. You have this video, Your Five Year Plan: Where do you Want to be in Five Years, on your YouTube channel. How do you come up with that plan when you have fear creeping in?
You’ve got to kick fear right in the private parts, mid section and kick him in the pig pen every day, every time he rears his ugly Sméagol Lord of the Rings face. You have to kick him and you got to kick him every time and slam that pig pen door and make sure that latch is on so that he can wallow in filth all day. Because you Laura, and me and people who are really ambitious, we deserve to be by the pool with our James Bond positive voice. You’ve got to get silly with it. I can only tell you what has worked in my personal experience. Defeating my negative voice has been done by visualizing a James Bond positive voice that's on my right shoulder. This Sméagol, gross, ET, gremlin looking figure that's really skinny like Squidward, you can just kick him. Once you know, you dipstick him in the pig pen, he knows his role, he knows. He hides behind a black smoke. It's all illogical negativity.
Negativity is illogical because you can literally make up positive things and say them to yourself as opposed to making up worries. A worry is worrying about a future event that hasn't happened that will happen in a negative way. Think about it, if you're doing that in a positive form, you're doing what Conor McGregor does in the UFC. You're willing, you’ve got to speak your belief to the universe and it becomes that much more real. You’ve got to let it out of your head and you’ve got to speak it. That's going to commit you to take the next baby step, that next actionable thing to get out of the pit of whether it's an injury bringing you down, whatever it is.
Just to bring it home on that, my mentor from Inglewood, New Jersey who I really built a big relationship with during my year abroad in Israel when I was eighteen. I was in the first electric car with the founder of AOL, Steve Case in Tel Aviv with this mentor. One of his things is, "Never ever, ever, ever give up." Another thing is, "You're in charge of the next five years." There's only so much you can do in one day as far as baby steps towards your goals. He would tell me to update it every year, "You update it every year and you write it down in paper." If you're a phone person, you may want to buy a pencil and a pen and a notepad and do it the old school way, but whatever, do it on the phone, write it down, get it out of your head. You see what we're doing? We're pulling it out of our subconscious.
You're clearing a space in your brain.
You’ve got to do that. Five-year plan, it just gives you this overarching daily confidence, because you will see that when you delete a lot of the fluff in your day that clogs up your mind about self defeat and why you can't and rejection. I told you, I've got dropped by a modeling agency today, a three-year mother agency contract and I've never been happier because it's a new door and I'm going to kick it down and smile and introduce myself. That five-year plan is this overarching sense of confidence throughout you every day because you know where you're going, you have very clear picture of the life that you're building brick by brick.
Let's talk about those bricks. How do you figure out how you get to that plan? Is it getting stuck in the details? Things can change. Once you get on a path towards something, it's hard to see that through.
You've just tapped on to something. When things change, every day you can put yourself into a great state. We all know that that state ends and all of a sudden, you have very dark thoughts and very self defeating thoughts and your goals change. My goal is to get signed and now I got unsigned today. How am I still so confident? It's over time. It's the patting yourself on the back every day. The mentor that I referred to earlier in Memphis, he always would tell me, "Jacob, you’ve got to learn to have patience with yourself." You’ve got to learn to have patience with yourself. Thank God, I'm 25 and I feel like I'm still really early on getting that. I'm finally getting to 25 to have patience with yourself.
When things change and when your goals change, that's okay. You know what I like to do? Listen to the wind blow. That's not in a nature-y weird way. Listen to the daily in-between moments. We're talking about in-between standup comedy moments on stage. It's all about timing to pop that giggle out of your audience. You’ve got to just listen to the sound of the wind, to the trees and the leaves blow. The events in your daily life, especially when you're in a time, a phase of upheaval, if you're in a pit of despair, if you're getting over something, if you're challenged, it's going to be even highlighted more. Your job is just to be aware and to be present and to imagine yourself over your head, six feet on the subway train car. You're not just in your own head, whether you're thinking really positively or negatively, you are listening to the different languages that are being spoken around you. You can be grateful for that, for being in a place where you're safe and where you have different languages. It's such a melting pot and safety, thank God.
If you're aware of the daily blessings, because they're really blessings too, you don't need the big yachts every day and the big Maseratis and the big functions to keep you happy, a thousand Instagram likes. You can just get a kick out of talking to an old guy for five minutes about his days as an actor or whatever it is, opening the door and getting that sense of satisfaction. That five-year plan, you just had that overarching sense of confidence. When things change, you change with them. Listen to the trees blow and listen to what it's telling you and then re-strategize and keep things open. Stop taking yourself so seriously.
It sounds like you're saying to stay in the moment and not get down on yourself.
If you can't laugh at yourself, go, "F you." You’ve got to be able to laugh at yourself and you can't be afraid of failure. I would have never accomplished anything if I would not have been afraid of failure. You can't win every battle. You can't win them all, but you can walk down the red carpet a lot for the good ones.
Your hero sounds like Arnold Schwarzenegger.
My heroes can be pointed out on one hand. You’ve got to know who your heroes are. Eric Thomas, check him out. The ET, the hip-hop preacher, he was homeless, he was eating out of trash cans. Now, he has a PhD from Michigan and he is the number two speaker after Tony Robbins in the world. Tony Robbins is my number two. This isn't in any specific order. Tony Robbins is number two. His book Unlimited Power has changed my life when I first read it when I was eighteen in Israel. It's changing my life again in the past few months as I read it as a 25-year-old. It's good keep those kinds of books around. After Eric Thomas and Tony Robbins, the next is Brendon Burchard. He’s great. My sister likes him a little more than me. I feel like I've got a lot of his stuff in my head already so I don't watch him as often as I watch Arnold Schwarzenegger motivation or Eric Thomas motivation or Tony Robbins motivation. Brendon Burchard is a great fourth guy to go check out.
You know who else? These are for the fitness buffs, since we're doing the YouTube listing, for the fitness motivation and positivity, this guy, he's Mr. Universe twice now from Australia. He was like Arnold. He has accent, he's huge, but no. He's this goofy, awesome, confident dude and really beautiful girlfriend too. They have this Instagram, it's pretty cool. It's called @CalumAndKarina. Calum Von Moger. He says he wants to be a good example for the world. This is the generation to be an American hero. If you're not an American hero, you can be whatever nationality hero you are. We're not just going to be all down and negative on this generation, even with the global disorder and terrorism. Look at it this way, there's never been a more needed time for young Americans and young people of all nationalities to go after exactly what they want to do because they could do it from their iPhone. Get an Instagram. If you want to sell Santos, Argentinian yoga wood, freaking get an Instagram account and get a wholesale batch of Argentina Santos wood from Alibaba for $50. There, boom, you have a business out of your bedroom.
You are an entrepreneur after all. I’ll put that video that I edited of Jacob.
I still get props. When I go to campus, I'm like a local celebrity. I don't know, I just thought it really made me feel that much more of a bonafide dream catcher.
Again, your commitment to doing what is uniquely your talent and only that you can bring to the world, that's so cool.
Thank you. In another way of looking at it, it's really all I got. You’ve got to work what your mama gave you.
I started a new blog. My first blog, there are newsletter in there too, but I wrote something called Define your own Success. If we're chasing what other people want, then we can’t achieve that. Like you are, you're going after what you are already amazing at and you're obviously going to succeed because that is your definition.
Because I'm okay with leaving it as a big question mark. If you take the baby steps every day, you don't need this big label of what you're going towards.
Variety is the answer I think. A lot of people are not satisfied with just doing one thing all the time every day and this 9 to 5 the same thing every single day. That's why I joined this Facebook group called The Variety Seeker Tribe. I don't know the people personally, it's part HoneLife.com.
What's so cool about it?
It's for people who have trouble just being in one place all the time. It talks about travel. It talks about having different sources of income.
Laptop lifestyle kind of thing?
Yeah. It even encourages you if you want to be stable in one place that you could also have variety in a lot of different ways. Maybe you do a lot of different projects like I do or things like that. For me, it's very encourage that I can do a bunch of different things and not feel that I'm labeled to being just video person or whatever.
You're so much bigger than that. I see you as a young Spielberg, but a really beautiful female version of Spielberg. You're definitely not male. Just to be clear, you're like a young Spielberg, but the other gender. They say Spielberg literally walked onto to the lot of Warner Bros when the kid was fifteen and found an empty trailer, left the tour that he was on because he loved it. Found an empty trailer, put his name up and came back the next day dressed like an adult with a briefcase to his old empty office. After a summer of being there and networking and meeting people, they took him on full-time.
Not true, but that sounds like your story. Let's end the podcast with one positive tip for people, just any negative wisdom, something to kick the negative voice out of your head to achieve your goals; anything that you’ve got.
I think it's important to realize that when a sailor sets sail, our older historical means of international transportation; a sailor at a certain point, you're leaving docks. Even that night, you can still be comforted by looking back on the city lights of where you came from. Then at a certain point in the journey, everyone's journey is different and everyone's journey has the potential to be a Superman's journey. Everyone is amazing. Everyone's a king and a queen and a princess and a prince. You should all think of yourself as a Simba, as a lion, a young lion, female lioness, male lion, whatever. You're king of the jungle, baby and sexy too. Just remember that, when your feet hit the floor, the devil should say, "Oh shit, Laura's up again. Oh crap, Jacob's up to do work against me, the negative voice, he's going to conquer his dreams." You should make him scared whenever you get up and hit the floor. The sailor at a certain point of his journey, looks back and he can no longer see the city lights. That's the point of the journey that we all find ourselves on, whether it's a toe injury, whether it's a back injury, whatever it is, sometimes we find ourselves in the middle of the ocean and we can't see from where we have come and we still cannot yet see where we are going, what we're meant to do. Take a second.
Tony Robbins said, I love how he says it, "This all day, we're always doing. We never stop doing to take a second and to remember what is our purpose." As Connor McGregor, the UFC fighter we keep mentioning, you got to check out his video, Embrace the Chaos. He says, "You can have anything you want if you keep singleness of purpose." You're not going to see your destination yet and you're not going to see where you came from, but keep sailing. That image of a captain, making the tiny adjustments all night at the helm of the ship's wheel, and you don't know where you're going yet, you don't know where you're from, but you know to follow your heart. As Arnold says, "You’ve got to do what you know you got to do." As someone else that I can't remember their name says, "I think I've got this." Vincent Chase, the Entourage, the Tony Robbins, the Ace Ventura, the comedy, the motivation, “My God, Jacob Bacaner's got this. I just got to keep on doing what I know I got to keep on doing to get by until I'm there.”
Thank you, Jacob, for coming on the podcast.
Thank you, Laura, for having me. It's been wonderful. I wish you nothing but the best in 2016. I love you, girl.
You can follow Jacob on Instagram and YouTube @JacobBacaner. As for me, I'm a filmmaker and artist and your podcast host, Laura Meoli. For more creative tips and inspiration, you can find me on social media @LoudaVision or at LauraMeoli.com. If you like today's interview with Jacob, you can listen to more at LoudaVision Podcast, read my blog, watch my videos and connect with me. You guys keep talking positive to yourself the way Jacob would.
It's okay to talk to yourself. That's what leaders do. Leaders talk to themselves. They say Thomas Edison sat in his basement in the dark on a chair and let thoughts of brilliance come to him in the darkness.
In the darkness, talk to yourself. Until next time, it’s your visions, stay positive and take care.